On Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Welcome to The Worry Bar!

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This is the first in a series of posts about anxiety, post-cancer treatment life, and coping skills. I'll be posting them on Thursdays.  Please share or comment below if you like! 

Ivy starting to regrow on one of my top five favorite trees I run past all the time!

Welcome To The Worry Bar! 

During the month of March, I took an MBSR virtual class. MBSR stands for Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. However, when I say it in my head I always read it as Mind Body Stress Reduction. This is also a decent description. During week three of the MBSR class, the instruction focused on Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy and that apparently is my jam. 

One very helpful tip I learned was that thoughts are not facts. This has become my little mantra for all the times when my random thoughts start to get out of hand and illogical worries start circling in my brain. Now instead of getting completely stuck on the road to panic; I say to myself: "Thoughts are not facts." Yes, technically some thoughts are facts, but in the realm of my rambling brain, they are mostly not facts—especially if they relate to worrying. 

MBCT also focuses on reducing aversion. For example, if you have a worrying thought, and you try to shut it down or push it down with ‘be positive! think happy thoughts!” —what happens is you spend more time pushing that thought away than if you would just allow it to be. You don’t have to give it attention, just acknowledge it, allow it to exist in your mind, and then go about your life. It sounds too simple to work, and yet…It seems to work?!? 

Using my imagination I created a bar in my mind. Currently, it's a seedy dive bar. Dark interior, surly patrons, and a limited menu. I named it “The Worry Bar”, I know, not very creative or punny. Maybe later I’ll give it a nice alliterative name when I’m better at  MBSR and MBCT and have some room in my head to breathe and be happier. 

All thoughts are welcome at The Worry Bar. I’m the proprietor and sole bartender. It does have a lovely glossy mahogany bar with well-worn leather stools and then there are four top tables with captain's chairs. Along the left and right sides are empty booths with cracked vinyl seats and Formica tables. Normally there are only a few thoughts hanging out in the dark, dank space of the bar, and oh did I mention,  the jukebox is broken. I am hoping as time goes by I might be able to give it a remodel, put in some new lighting, clean the windows, and have it become more of a gastro-pub or a craft brewery. I want to have lots of fun happy thoughts who are enjoying fried pickles and freshly brewed IPAs. Or if it’s summertime, iced lattes with a nice charcuterie platter and a bottle of perfectly chilled Riesling or a fresh lemon shake-up. That is however too hard for me to contemplate right now. 

Currently, I have Scanxiety (anticipatory anxiety based on an upcoming medical scan) just hanging at the bar nursing a kombucha. She’d like to have a beer, but I’m the owner here and she doesn’t get to pick her drink. She can stay as long as she wants to, but I’m in charge of the menus so it’s kombucha and stale popcorn for her.

 

Tomorrow I am scheduling a CT scan which is routine and is the best current method of surveillance for me. I had a lot of treatment and am doing all I can to make sure my body is as healthy as it can be for decades to come; so I don’t want to potentially undo that work by not having the routine checkups because they stress me out. All that is to say that scanxiety may really start ramping up once I make the appointment tomorrow. That's why I decided to take the MBSR class in the first place, I knew I had to schedule a scan for late March and I wanted to try another non-medicinal tool to manage my fears. 

When I get a handle on my thoughts, The Worry Bar is going to have big soft pretzels and super zesty beer cheese.

The Answer to What to Do with Leftover Ham and a #2021AudiobookChallege Rom Com Review! #ParanormalRomance

This month's Real Simple magazine had some dinner recipes that were actually as easy as described.  Today I'm sharing my experience making the Ham and Leek Quiche recipe.  Now as often happens I had to make substitutions in order to make the recipe with what I had on hand.  For this recipe, I lacked leek and buttermilk.  In place of the leek, I used scallions and a shallot. In place of buttermilk, I used sour cream mixed with 1% milk. Here is an article on various buttermilk substitutes.   It turned out so well! 

If you are looking for a paranormal romance with plenty of comedy, look no further than the first book in the Mystic Bayou series!  This is an audible exclusive audiobook and is also available on Kindle and in paperback. Since I have an Audible subscription, I listened to the audio version.  There are two readers, Amanda Ronconi for Jillian's POV and Jonathan Davis for Bael's POV. Both readers do an excellent job voicing the characters and make the story come alive.

I have to say that Zed the werebear and Bael the sheriff are my new favorite comedic duo.  Their scenes are too funny!   

“He tried to call himself Zed Oakendesk, after watching the Hobbit one too many times, but Bael refused because a man shouldn’t come up with his own nickname.”
― Molly Harper, How to Date Your Dragon

This book has a nice balance of comedy, bedroom scenes, and mystery. By its nature as a Bayou town where supernatural beings live alongside humans, you get a great bunch of local characters. It's the kind of story where you wish you could drive down for your next vacation. I'm trying to listen to this series throughout the month of April so hopefully, I'll have at least a review of the next book in the series before the end of April. 

A quote so you can get an idea of the humor/sexy mix:

“She wasn’t prepared for the way the humidity absorbed into her clothes, sealing them to her skin in a thick layer of sweat. She was not prepared for the distraction Bael’s ass would pose, bobbing through the brush ahead of her like a perfect peach wrapped in skin-tight denim. She was staring at it, suffering the oddest craving for peach pie,”
― Molly Harper, How to Date Your Dragon

4 Stars, very fun audiobook! 

In the second book, we get to see Zedd find his mate! 

 The pussy willows along the sidewalk down my block. I love watching Spring begin to unfurl.  Knock on wood, I think that due to the warmer than typical March we enjoyed, we should see trees and bushes flowering more than usual for April in Chicago. 

Cozy Mystery and Spicy Stew! #2021AudioBookChallenge

 If you enjoy cozy mysteries, I suggest following the Crooked Lane Books website. They publish a wide variety of entertaining new cozies.  A bit more modern than the traditional cozy, but still well within the guidelines of the genre.  They are typically fast-paced and have colorful covers On Borrowed Crime by Kate Young is a prime example of what Crooked Lane publishes in the cozy mystery genre. 

On Borrowed Crime is the first book in Kate Young's Jane Doe Book Club series. The series takes place in a small town located north of Atlanta, Georgia.  Lyla Moody is our amateur sleuth, but maybe not so amateur as she has just begun a job working as an assistant to her Uncle who is a P.I. 

What I liked about this book is that it blended a cold case and true crime into a cozy mystery. Additionally, Lyla doesn't put herself into dangerous situations and her best friend is not over the top silly or 'sassy' The book is fast-paced and if you are a fan of mysteries, you'll likely enjoy how Kate Young incorporates Agatha Christie's And Then There Were None in this mystery.  

Lyla is single in this book and for those who look for romance in their cozy reading, this book is virtually romance-free. I could see romance featuring potentially in the future, but it isn't a feature in this book. 

I don't know if this was on purpose or just happenstance, but this book reminded me of Charlaine Harris's book Real Murders in that both take place in small towns north of Atlanta, both involved members of a crime related book club, and in both books, characters talk about how unseemly and weird it is that the main character is interested in true crime. 

Overall this was an enjoyable book, and the reason it's closer to a 3 than a 4 for me is that reading the scenes with Lyla and her parents you would think this book was taking place in 1971, not 2021.  The dated attitudes towards women were just too much. 

Stars 3.5, I will probably read the second book in the series to see where things go. I really felt like Lyla's parents and a few other people treated her like she was 14, not 31, if that is a continuing theme then the series isn't for me.  I like women in their 30s to be treated as such.  

If you are looking for an easy spicy meal for a weekday dinner, I recently made this recipe and the Hubs loved it.  It's from Real Simple Magazine, Spicy Chorizo Chili

Happy Easter! The Sunday Post #1 of April 2021!

 

The Sunday Post is a weekly meme hosted here @ Caffeinated Reviewer. It’s a chance to share news~ A post to recap the past week on your blog and showcase books and things we have received. Share news about what is coming up on our blog for the week ahead.  See rules here: Sunday Post Meme

Happy Easter to everyone who celebrates Easter. Here is a picture from an Easter about 12 years ago. Looks at my cute little bunnies! 

I hope you had a nice week.  The exciting news here is that I got an appt to get the 1st dose of the Pfizer vaccine!  Yes! Hip Hip Hooray! 

This Tues, April 6th, is the release date for a wonderful new YA book by Brittney Morris, I reviewed it on Friday, you can read my review here: The Cost of Knowing.

This week I am starting a series of posts on Thursdays.  These posts will be about how I am dealing with life post- cancer treatment.   I am planning a series of four posts and I hope you read them! 

Also, I've got some audiobook reviews coming up this week:

It is going to be very nice in Chicagoland for Easter this year, so I've got the teenage kids cash-filled eggs ready for a backyard egg hunt tomorrow.  I was going to hid some eggs for The Hubs, but they don't make wine bottle-sized plastic eggs - haha! 

Do you have any traditions you'll be enjoying this Easter - to celebrate or not celebrate the holiday? (ie in pre-covid days going to the movies or such)? I like a good egg hunt and think it should be done for any and all holidays, it's fun to hide stuff and watch people look for it. Mwahahhahhahaha

New Release by Brittney Morris #TheCostofKnowing #NetGalley You Can't Put This Down!

 Brittney Morris writes the kind of book you can't put down.  Her YA characters are compelling and loveable and you just want all the good things for them.  If you have not yet read her novel Slay, I suggest you add Slay and The Cost of Knowing to your TBR pile and follow Brittney Morris so you don't miss any of her future books.   Reviewing this book is a little tricky because I want to be sure not to spoil anything and yet I want to tell you so much! 

On Goodreads, Brittney Morris wrote: "My love letter to all the Black men who had to grow up too early." This love letter is wrapped in an amazing tale about a teen, Alex, who in the aftermath of a car accident that killed his parents on election day, now sees visions of the future whenever he touches any person or object with his hands.  

Alex has been managing to be a functioning human for four years even as he is hit with a vision every time he touches anything and the longer the touch continues the further into the future of the object or person's life he sees. Worst of all Alex can't change the future.  He tried a few times and it didn't change anything, all the bad things happen. What a nightmare! I could not function.  

Brittney Morris gives us an excellent depiction of crippling anxiety and how it affects Alex due to his power.  Additionally,  she shows how anxiety permeates Alex's life because he is a Black teenager.  He has to navigate a world of never-ending minefields.   He has to use code-switching not only to hide his power but also to make his existence more palatable to white people.

This is a five-star read for me.  It is beautifully descriptive as it deals with hard subjects, you can feel the love Brittney Morris has for the characters on each page you read, and I don't think it would be possible to read this and not love these kids.  I stayed up late to finish it and my heart is filled with both joy and deep sadness. 

The Cost of Knowing is the sort of book that will stick with me for a very long time; it's a book that makes me want to send a thank-you note to Brittney Morris for putting it out into the world. 

New spring growth from one of my most recent runs. 

Boy Am I Going To Miss The Reluctant Royals! #SeriesinaMonthChallenge And Avocado Toast Disappointment

 I would like to move to the alternative universe of Alyssa Cole's Reluctant Royals series.  Too bad you can't do a Go Fund Me to raise funds to buy a magical ticket into the fictional realm.  At least I had the #SeriesinaMonth Challenge.  This series was a wonderful escape during the last few weeks of winter.

What a great-looking cover, right?  I like the bold colors and the dresses each of our heroines has worn on the series covers and this dress is no exception.  Beautiful! This book is featured in the book so it's nice to see a representation of Nya in it. 

I am pretty bummed that this is the last book in the series and that I have already read the first book in the spin-off series, How to Catch A Queen.  At least I can look forward to reading the second book n the spin-off series (Runaway Royals) this summer. 

I loved A Prince on Paper, a 5-star review for me. Picture me ticking these features off on my hand  1. It has the wonderful Nya, cousin to Naledi,  who is inexperienced, but not naive and sensitive in the best ways rake, Johan.  2. There is a tiny fake kingdom  3. there is an exploration of life for someone who has experienced Munchhausen by Proxy. 4. There is a fantastic, fantastic subplot about gender identity and Number five, but really first in my heart... A fake engagement!  I love a good fake engagement. Alyssa Cole is on the top of her game in this book, it's so good and why isn't it a Netflix limited series already. C'mon now! 

Alyssa Cole's writing contains just the right amount of humor! 

Do yourself a favor and get this book, get the whole series but esp get my two favorites, A Prince on Paper and Can't Escape Love! 

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Welp, this whole growing avocado tree from a pit is not panning out so well.  Dare I say, it's the pits? Yes, I do dare to make that pun! 

At least I have spring in the great outdoors to look forward to and on that note; time for a couple of springtime photos: 

I see this bird's nest on my walks and runs, so far no eggs. If that changes y'all will be the first to know--well besides the birds! 

Look!! You can see the first hints of green!!

Bungled! Out today! Who knew Sport Fishing Was So Deadly?

I was enjoying reading about the upcoming fishing tournament, the reality TV show being filmed in town, and Rylie's upcoming wedding so much that I didn't even care if there was a murder to solve!  

Stella starts Bungled: A Rylie Cooper Mystery out with a great hook, George the part-time park ranger explains to Rylie how to get yourself out of zip-tie handcuffs.  Well, now I need to drop everything and read this book to find out if and when Stella is going to need to get herself out of handcuffs.  As if that wasn't enough, then there are all the comments by friends and family members asking Rylie if she's sure she should get married. What a great distraction of a book! 

I appreciated how Stella made a fishing tournament interesting for someone who doesn't fish. Her descriptions of how a fishing tournament works and ways one might try to cheat are seamlessly part of the narrative making sure they don't become information dumps for the reader. 

The mystery keeps you reading and guessing about who did it and why, and the side characters are properly quirky.  The book ends with Rylie questions her life choices and that is a good place to end things and get the reader interested in what will come next! 

4 stars for Bungled: A Rylie Cooper Mystery.  The perfect book to take with you fishing! Click here to add it to your Goodreads TBR.

It is available on Kindle or in Paperback and is included in a Kindle Unlimited Subscription! 

The March Cozy Mystery Book Club Book! Who's Joining Us For the Live Stream Tomorrow?

 This month the Cozy Mystery Book Club is reading the first book in Alexia Gordon's award-winning Gethsemane Brown Mysteries series!  I have been waiting to read this book with the Club for a while now I am glad that the time finally arrived! Not only did I enjoy the writing, I also enjoyed the distinctive signature look of the covers in this series. 

I greatly enjoyed this cozy and am looking forward to immediately reading the next book in the series, not only because there is a cliffhanger that I need to find out more about but also because it's an engaging story. 

 Alexia Gordon is just brilliant, her descriptions are evocative reminding you that Ireland is an old and mystical place, so much so that it doesn't seem shocking at all when Gethsemane runs into a ghost or when the bodies start to pile up.  The mystery and the language used in Murder in G Major kept me on my toes.  I had to look up definitions for more than a couple of words and phrases in this book and I appreciated the opportunity to learn new vocabulary, as well as the proper pronunciations of Gaelic names.  

Gethsemane Brown makes for a wonderful amateur sleuth.  She starts out reluctant to get involved, she's an outsider and her background as a music scholar provides her with great researching skills and the ability to think outside the box.  Now that I think about it, Dr. Gethsemane Brown shares some traits with Sherlock Holmes; both play the violin, both are blunt in their words, and both are doggedly determined to find out who done it.  

This book has just the right of twist and turns and also a gothic flair.  Who has even heard of a church with a poison garden?  As Gethsemane says, only in Ireland. 

4.0 Stars to Murder in G Major. The only reason it wasn't a 5-stars for me was the motive and I have some qualms with how the killer was depicted not a fan of that particular trope. I don't want to say too much and give anything away.  

I loved Gethsemane and Eamon. Really nice duo! 

#The Sunday Post - Last of Sunday of March is Here- Let's Make it Count!

 

The Sunday Post is a weekly meme hosted here @ Caffeinated Reviewer. It’s a chance to share news~ A post to recap the past week on your blog and showcase books and things we have received. Share news about what is coming up on our blog for the week ahead.  See rules here: Sunday Post Meme

How was your week?  I hope it was nice and low stress. I hope some of you got vaccinated or made your vaccination appointments. I am now eligible in my state and so the hunt is on- so far no dice! This upcoming week I have a routine surveillance CT scan. I would like to get the vaccine once that is done because the vaccine ramps up your immune system and that can make a CT scan look funky and I don't want any funkiness on my scan. I want boring unremarkable pictures of my insides.

I spend some time this week laying out my reading and reviewing plan for April.  Along with April Showers I'll be reading and sharing some good-looking books! 

Release Date 4/6/2021

Historical Romance - obviously! Out March 29, 2021

The second book in the Booklover's B&B Mysteries.  Out June 8, 2021

Plus a bunch more!  

In April I am planning to start spring cleaning my Goodreads shelves. Do you plan to engage in some cathartic spring cleaning this year? 

Who Has Times for Affairs and Politics? Apparently The Women of the Regency! Me on the Other Hand, I like to Cook!

 

I guess when you have servants and are part of the aristocracy you have the time for love affairs!  See what happens in a world without the internet. LOL.  

I read this book because it was a March Book Club selection. I don't read much non-fiction. I usually get m non-fiction from podcasts. I listened to the audio version of this book and because of that some of the Heroines blurred together because there are many similar names and titles and I don't have a background in any monarchy, let alone Merry Old England.   Listening to the book right after Oprah's interview with Princess Megan and Prince Harry, I will say that this book didn't make me think more kindly about the British Monarchy.  Woo Boy, the monarchy has been bad for women for centuries! 

The more I listened to the stories of these women, the more I thought, my how things haven't changed for women.  More technology, but still so much misogyny. 

 

It was interesting to learn more about the historical  Ton and how the debutant seasons were done and I appreciated knowing it was the women who were the gatekeepers of the balls and events. I think knowing the reality of the Regency Era makes me more inclined to read romance and mystery set in the time period. 

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Not having servants, not only don't I have time for torrid love affairs (LOL)I also spend a good amount of my time cooking.  As I mentioned before, sometimes I will get a couple of Blue Apron meals.  This is the latest meal I made and it was the first time I got a vegetarian meal from BA. The recipe was simple and it is a meal I could definitely make myself cheaply. 

Basically, you need 8 tortillas and you cut them in 1/2. Then you cut up 8oz of mushrooms, 2 Chayote Squash, chopped some cloves of garlic, rinse and drain a can of black beans or other beans of your choice. 

Preheat the over to 425F. 

Next, In a bowl, you mix a can of crushed tomatoes and a chili sauce (hotness to your taste) and set that aside.  

Now to the stove, take a pan put some oil in it, cook the garlic till it starts smelling great, then add the mushrooms and cook for a few min, then add the squash and cook together for a good 5 minutes then add about a tablespoon of chili seasoning or taco seasoning or a pepper blend for flavor and heat if you want it spicy!  Lastly, add the beans plus a little water. Season to taste with salt and pepper.  

Then take a 9x13 baking pan and spread some of the tomato/chili sauce blend on the bottom. Layer 1/2 the tortilla halves. Then layer on 1/2 of the vegetable blend. Oh, I forgot to say at the top, you are going to need a cup of shredded cheese (cheddar/Monterey jack or cotija cheese, etc) put a layer of cheese on top of the vegetable mix. Repeat and then bake it in a 425 oven for around 20 minutes. 

Lastly, as always I have some referral emails for a few Blue Apron meals, if you've not tried Blue Apron and would like to try for free, just let me know your email and I'll send you a link for a free box!